Men & Cleaning!

ORGINALLY POSTED 1/28/08...I love this post.


Is there a crime against teaching our young boys how to clean a house? I think there must be. I have had this conversation with many friends, all with the same problem. Let me explain.
A few weeks ago, I snapped! I was in the middle of my usual Sunday cleaning, when I noticed my husband playing a computer game. I stared at him, and tried really hard to find a way to filter my words. Well, it didn't work! Before I knew it, I asked him a very serious question. The same question I want other wives/ girlfriends to ask their mates.


"When you were growing up, did your mother make you help clean the house?"

He replied, "No." I suddenly became Linda Blair, and spewed words from my mouth that will not be repeated on this blog. All you need to know is, I SNAPPED!

So I am pleading with mother's of future boyfriends/husbands, teach them how to clean. Who cares if it is not perfect, but let them practice with YOU and NOT their wives. We (wives/girlfriends) should not have to teach these men how to use a mop, or clean their hair/urine off the toilet! Ladies you are only hurting your sons, by not teaching them these fundamental skills. I understand you may be tired, since you are teaching their fathers, but why not teach them together. Sounds good to me.

I must add, after I flipped out, my husband has been trying. Yesterday, he cleaned the whole house. But for the last 24hrs, every other statement out of his mouth has been about him cleaning. I am almost sick of hearing it, but realize he is proud of his work. And he should be. However, where is my cheering squad after cleaning? Can anyone tell me? I just hope the next time I clean, he will be more cognizant of his facial hair in the bathroom sink. I know my future son(s) will be.

The Always Truthful,
Real (Married) Girl

P.S. I did tell him the house looked great!

(picture source: beconfused.com)

Fashion! turn to the left

Second edition to the best of RMG...orginally posted 2/5/08.



I am clearly not Stacey London or Clinton Kelly, but there are just some styles that need to go away! Some of us remember wearing the hideous "jam" shorts, British Knight sneakers, spandex shorts/pants (sad to say, I had a whole body suit), mullets etc. Admit it, some of you had mullets, even if you burned the pictures. The point I am trying to make is that these fashion faux pas's were cool and acceptable, when compared to some of the things that are being worn now. Okay, wait! The mullet has never been cool or acceptable, sorry.

Even still, the recent fashion fads are ridiculous. Yes, I am speaking to those of you that wear the silly butt plastered Angel, Sexy, Sweetie & Juicy pants. YUCK! Why in the world would someone want to have the word juicy written across their ass? IMO, it is just not a flattering word. The word Juicy has a bit of a "smelly" connotation. Think about it.

The problem with these pants, besides the name, are the people that wear them. Many seem to have really mishapen butts. You know the ones I speak of, the crater/lumpy surfaced, football shaped, saggy butts. These are the same behinds that try to wear the gaucho pants. Who are their friends? Why haven't these friends told them how they look?
Put some on, I bet you will find out who your real friends are.


Final thoughts: Just because clothes are made in your size,doesn't mean they are flattering for your figure. And, stop trying to squeeze in clothes that are too small. Everyone can tell you are not wearing the correct size. Let's just get Real people. Buy clothes that fit and not what's trendy.


The always truthful,
Real(married)girl
(picture source: ergonmenon.files.worldpress.com)

Best of RMG- Confessions of a Passive-Aggressive Wife

Since I am in lurk phase, I have noticed many people are landing on this post. I guess it was popular. So without further adieu I give you a repeat of Confessions of a Passive - Aggresive Wive. (I have to admit I love this post. Orginally posted December 2008)



Pietro Longhi, The Confession,
1755 Galleria degli Uffizi, Florence




I have chosen this title proudly.

One of the greatest coping mechanisms I have found (and works for me), in this marriage, is to find ways to end an argument in a passive/aggressive way.


Let me explain...


Typically when the man I married really ticks me off, I try to go to bed before he does.


This way, I can throw his pillow across the room, and then I lie in wait to watch him frantically attempt to locate his pillow - in the dark. At this point, I find myself laughing quietly (you know the laugh that hurts, but you cannot make a sound...okay the classroom laugh) as he pats the bed to find this pillow. All the while, it's on the floor!!!! Hehehe, oh I love me.


But now, he is hip to this treatment and no longer searches on the bed for his missing pillow. He goes straight to the floor. Darn him.


It is truly sick and probably unnecessary. Clearly, as a Master's level clinician, I really should have better conflict resolution skills. But, it is different when you are in the thick of it. Personally, that is.



Recently I got mad at my husband, but this time there were no pillows thrown. Instead, he was on his way out to get a Christmas gift and I noticed his pants were very noticeably unzipped. I parted my mouth to tell him,but then I thought F' it and closed my mouth and smirked as he left.


I had complete confidence that he would discover what I knew. Well about an hour later, he returns home with some of our favorite snacks ( I guess trying to make amends). And yes, his pants were still UNZIPPED!!!!!!


At that moment, I realized, I let this man walk around a store with his underoos showing.


Instantly, I felt guilty but still (of course) found it funny. I guess I am a mental terrorist.


Honestly, I find it's a better option than snapping his little friggin' head off.


Trust me, I am plenty direct and in his face, but I know my limits...and that's when this behavior is helpful. For us both.


I know that I am not the only wife/girlfriend that does or has done something passive-aggressive to their mate when they really piss you off.

So come on women confess. I'll be here waiting - for some new ideas.




The Always Truthful,


~RMG

Hiatus

After spending almost a year posting on/off on various topics, I have found lately that I am

struggling to post anything interesting.

Honestly, I am feeling like it's more of a chore than enjoyment to write entries.

With that said, the RMG is taking a break!!!

During this time away, maybe I will get my mojo back. Let's hope. If not, then we shall see what will happen.

Until then check out Ps22 on youtube...these kids are AMAZING!

Take Care,

~RMG