It's simple, I pride myself on my crude honesty. Not all the time is this acceptable, but I don't care. I have never been fond of conforming, and at my age, never will.
The reason I bring this up is because I had one of my guy friends confess this to me last night.
He stated that he has learned more from me, than any of his other friends, as it relates to relationships in our brief run-ins or outings.
(The reason probably is, that my husband and I have been together for almost a decade. And, we have fought about probably almost everything. Except children since we do not have any,but that's a blog for later).
Seriously, I have given him advice (about women) while standing in the produce aisle of the market or like last night, while drinking a few beers in a bar.
Now let me give you a little background. This friend was just recently (a year ago) married in Hawaii to a beautiful girl from Russia. This relationship started just like a romance movie, but has lately turned into the movie Lost in Translation. Much of their problems have to do with age, cultural differences and a language barrier-much like some of the struggles in this movie. In this one year of marriage they have already been to therapy and separated at least once. And, maybe rightfully so, with these combination of struggles.
Last night, after hearing him talk about them having some very serious arguments over his wife being angry with him being on the computer all the time. He tried to explain to her that being on the computer is what pays the bills. However, she still did not understand, as she has termed his computer "his baby" or something of the sort.
Now this is where I stepped in and tried to explain what she is doing. Hang on ladies, I'm about to expose one of our dirty little secrets. I told him, that she is starting this fight because she wants attention from you. Yes, we all do it. Don't lie. Clearly, this method is not the most fun way, but it eventually gets us what we want. Kind of like a guilt trip.
He even confessed that after his wife's comment, he has started taking Salsa lessons to make her happy. I began exposing other female secrets and tips to handle these situations. But will not tell you all what I said, since I kind of like living.
The funny thing is I know everything I said will get Lost in Translation. Not because I explained it wrong or because his wife does not understand English very well,but instead because of the way he will deliver it **shaking my head in confusion**.
God, I love men, but women you know what I mean. I don't think I even have to elaborate.
I would love to see how this advice will play out. I guess, I'll just wait for our monthly market run-in.
Oh well, I'm off to watch my man compete in a Rock Climbing competition....his baby.
Take Care....
The always truthful,
~RMG
